Choose life. Choose a job. Choose a family, a set of friends and nice cosy house in a nice cosy village in a nice cosy part of the country. Choose how you spend your free time and your money. Choose not ignoring or judging those less fortunate but lifting them up and helping them unlock their potential. Choose seeing the good in people, and being willing to give them a second chance…and a third. Choose the impact you make. Choose victory in the face of defeat. Choose your legacy.
The next Shed Time event ‑ Choose Life – will be held on Monday 11th December, 7.45pm at the Dell Centre, Ashtead. As ever, this Shed Time event for men is a free event and free beers and a BBQ will be served. Looking forward to seeing you there.
The latest Shed Time event was of a more intimate nature and featured interviews with Ashtead locals Tim Hodgson, Steve Kershaw and Richard Saks, men with differing talents and careers of distinction. The evening was by turns absorbing, challenging and inspiring.
We learned how they coped with issues such as bereavement, the near-loss of a baby daughter after open-heart surgery, neglecting family for work, finding direction in life and being purpose-driven in your career.
We heard how family, faith and close friends all played vital roles in providing the support needed to get through the darkest times, and how it’s essential to ‘make every day count’.
Listen to the full event here : part 1 and part 2.
The Shed Time ‘Year of the Man’ theme continued with an exploration of achieving a successful work-life balance.
Patrick Fleming is a former Finance Director of Cadbury Schweppes’ and Chairman of Divine Chocolate and Pomegreat and is the current Chairman of Peppersmith. He’s also Chairman of Surrey Squash and on the National Forum Group of England Squash, having represented Surrey in the national inter-county Masters championships.
Patrick came to Shed Time to speaki about his journey of discovery of what he believes he’s here for and what he should be doing with his life. He described how he intentionally plans his life, sets his life priorities and tackles the ever-present challenge of balancing life inside and outside the workplace. He stressed the importance of having a mission, and from that setting your goals and aligning your priorities to meet those goals.
Throughout his talk he offered insights into how we can apply these practices to our own lives and deal with the inevitable issues that arise when that equilibrium is disturbed through such things as unfulfilled ambitions, life changes and the ageing process.
To listen to the talk, click here.
The latest Shed Time event for men was held on Monday, 27th February 2017. During this time we explored the theme of ‘blind spots’.
We all have blind spots, yet so many of us don’t know that. Some of them detrimentally affect our job performance, even the quality of our relationships at home and elsewhere.
Daniel Haigh spoke about what he’s learned on his own journey and as a coach and mentor. He also explained the essential role that friends, and sometimes coaches or counsellors, play in addressing our blind spots. He covered :
- Do you realise you have blind spots?
- How do you identify them?
- How do you deal with them?
In just 35 years Dan has risen from tea-boy to CEO. He’s now a life coach and an in-demand public speaker. He’s worked with clients who range from young adults looking for direction in life, men and women struggling relationally, to leaders and CEOs aiming to increase impact.
As usual, complimentary drinks and snacks (a BBQ!) were served on the night.
Click here to hear the talk in full.
The latest event was held on Monday 5th December 2016.
Justyn Rees Larcombe was living the perfect life.
Veteran of a highly successful career in the British Army. An equally glittering and well-rewarded career in the City. Further career progression beckoned through fast-track promotion.
He had wealth, an enormous house, a beautiful wife, three loving sons, a Porsche and a Mercedes. He had it all.
And then he started gambling. Three years later he’d lost it all, gambling away three quarters of a million pounds.
Now Justyn is a public speaker, media commentator, advisor to Government, the medical profession and leading national think-tanks on the issues of problem gambling and addiction in general.
Justyn shared the incredible story of his spectacular fall and how he managed to piece his life back together again. He also offered advice for those struggling with gambling and other addictive impulses. You can hear it here.
The latest event was held in September 2016. The guest speaker, Ron Bushyager, is a professional psychotherapist working extensively with individuals experiencing depression, anxiety, relationship difficulties or who simply feel stuck in their circumstances.
Ron offered some suggestions on the theme of being stirred, not shaken, when it comes to our feelings. Men can have difficulty and discomfort venturing into ‘emotional territory’ and spending time with our feelings. He dispelling the feeling that men can feel more than just hungry. He showed how men who are in touch with what is going on in the inside can live with more passion, freedom and satisfaction. They can have a greater positive influence in their relationships and be more at ease with the world around them.
He suggested that men can grow in emotional literacy by using the four Rs :
- Registering. Register that something is happening.
- Recognise. Label the emotion.
- Reflect. What does that feeling do to me.
- Respond. In a way that satisfies the emotion and engages creatively to the problem or opportunity.
Ron offered this strategy for mastering their emotional health :
- Men can exercise courage when working with emotions. To really tackle the challenges that hold them back, men must attend to their emotional world and overcome the stigma to showing weakness.
- We can invest in good, safe relationships with people we trust.
- We need to use our power and influence well. We should support other men. We should also know our boundaries, and connect our friends to the services around them.
Listen to the full talk here.
The first event was held in June 2016. The guest speaker was the ultramarathon runner Andy Findley who shared his experience of running the Marathon des Sables, known as the toughest footrace on Earth. Andy described what it was like to run 152 miles in 5 days, enduring 50°C heat. He used his experiences from extreme endurance sport to reflect on how we can run a better race and challenged us to be better men.
In Andy’s talk he offered the following tips :
- Be intentional. Every day.
- The weight of your bag determines how fast you run. Check your backpack every day. Get the boulders out.
- Check your dashboard. Every day. Don’t take your eye off the ball.
- Nothing ever goes to plan. You can’t think negative thoughts.
- Get good running mates. You’re an average of your five closest friends. “Show me your friends and I’ll show you your future.”
- Remember the power of your influence. Your daughter learns how she should love a man by how you love your wife. Your kids are learning from you. People are watching you and taking notes.
- We over-estimate what we can do in one day and under-estimate what we can do over a long time. Little decisions make a big difference. Make marginal gains every day. Better yourself daily.
- Encourage others. Find your passion and add value to others. We have to improve the lives of those around us.
- Don’t stop. Run strong and never never give up. We are so much stronger than we can ever give ourselves credit for. We can’t DNF (Did Not Finish).
Listen to the full talk here.